So you have been trying to get pregnant for a while and you are finding it difficult. You are beginning to think that maybe you need to stop working so that you can get pregnant more easily. Maybe you have heard about how stress from work can prevent a woman from getting pregnant or well-meaning people have been advising you to stop working if you want to have a baby. After all, your duty to be a mother is more important than anything else, right? Wrong!
Behind this thinking that you need to stop work in order to become a mum is the idea that as a woman you can do both or you should not do both. In fact, some people go as far as saying that if you have kids, it is better that you do not work. That your primary assignment is to stay at home and raise your kids. I know so many women who feel guilty about working when they have children.
In order to fully understand my stand on this, I want to refer you to Gen 1:28 when God gave a mandate to Adam and Eve to be fruitful and multiply, to fill the earth and subdue it. We have a mandate to have kids and make an impact in the world. It is true that there are different ways to make an impact in the world, you could help your local community, your church, your kids’ school but for most of us, we make an impact in the world by using our natural talents and acquired skills within a career. In most cases, it is the career we already started building for ourselves even before we got married.
Now I am not saying that a woman cannot choose to stay at home to watch her kids if she wants to. What I am saying is that the call to make an impact in the world comes in various forms and vocations. Some women feel called to be homemakers and that is fantastic, others are called to have careers outside the home. Our feminine genius is expressed in different ways and God wants society to benefit from it. So if you feel called to build a highly successful career outside the home, I want to tell you that it does not mean that you cannot be a great mother. It also does not mean that you cannot conceive while you are working.
While it is true that there are ways in which your job can make conception a little more difficult, you just need to be aware of this so that you can manage your work more effectively. If you haven’t done so already, read my article on 4 reasons your job could be preventing you from a healthy conception.
Also remember that an active and fulfilling life is important for your fertility so leaving your job might end up being counter-productive. If you feel called to work outside the home while raising a family, it is most likely because God has called you to do that and He wants to use you to make a difference in that way. So take a deep breath, pray and then follow your heart and not your fears.